For some strange reason, I found myself getting irritated the other day and I think it started with me fighting my way through traffic trying to get to the airport. I know it wasn’t actually the traffic, it just happened to hit me in a way that reminded me of back when I was working as a sales rep and constantly fighting my way through traffic. It was a flash back! And it took a couple hours to recover from it! It made me think of how things have changed so much in the past few years. This experience was something I could no longer relate to and it wasn’t a bad thing. I began to think of other things that I have trouble relating to any more and discovered there are quite a few of them. Here are a few.
I can’t relate to alarm clocks any more. Not that I don’t use one from time to time. They just don’t govern my schedule like before. My wife Shelley asked me once when I was going to wake up. I said I planned to sleep until I woke up. She laughed and said “Everyone sleeps til they wake up.” I said I was going to sleep until “I” wake up, not until something wakes me up.
I can’t relate to working for a paycheck any more. I think I work just as hard as anyone else (mostly) but I don’t remember the last time I received a paycheck based on the work I had done that week. It’s one of the subtle differences I see now that I couldn’t see just a couple years ago. It’s one of the wealth principles that remain a mystery for most people their entire lives. If they really understood it, they would be furious about working for wages. (including salaries and commissions) When I work, it all involves creating another asset that produces income long after I quit working on it. I never get paid when the work is being done. The pay starts the day the work is completed and just doesn’t stop. It’s the accumulated effect of income producing assets that creates wealth, not the accumulated effects of paychecks.
I can’t relate to dragging out decisions related to opportunities. Learning to recognize opportunities is a skill that has to be developed by doing it. Most opportunities are missed because of hesitation and lack of action. Hesitation and lack of action is a symptom of not being able to process the pros and cons of an opportunity quickly and accurately. That is a symptom of lack of experience, including both good and bad experiences. Watching people lock up when it comes to seeing and then acting on an opportunity just makes me shake my head. I can’t relate to that!
I’ve finally reached the point where I can’t relate to small thinking when it comes to investing and wealth creation. Obviously, the size of our thinking is relative and I’m mostly referring to “small” as things that are in the hundred thousand dollars or less category. Everyone says they think big, but my response is “When is the last time they did an income producing investment deal over $100k? or even $10k for that matter (personal residence excluded). Doing anything on that small of a scale doesn’t get my attention anymore. I can’t relate to it.
I can’t relate to an “I can’t do it” mentality. An “I can’t do it” mentality stems from a belief that “I do not have the resources” or “I do not have the skills” or “I do not have the connections” or some other “i do not have”. Sadly, even among my closest friends, I hear “i can’t do it” or some rendition of that, all the time. I’ve gotten a little bit hyper-sensitive to it lately and it kind of disturbs me. I never realized just how prevalent that mindset is. If you have something you want to do….FIND A WAY….for crying out loud! Figure it out! I’ve come to realize that most of my “thinking time” involves trying to figure out how to do things that are beyond my abilities, resources or knowledge. Honestly, I don’t always find the solutions, but its not because of the “I can’t do it” mentality.
I can’t relate to a pessimistic outlook on life. I believe that pessimism comes more naturally to most of us than optimism does, myself included. Engaging life from an optimistic perspective is a lot work if a pessimistic attitude prevails. It’s taken years to develop a truly positive and optimistic outlook on life and business for me and I honestly believe that’s the perspective I have now. I’m certain of this because now days when I’m around negative and pessimistic talk (no matter who it is) it all sounds like fingernails on chalk boards to me. I can’t relate to it!
These are all just a few of the things I can’t relate to any more and really don’t want to either. Some of my friendships have faded somewhat because I can no longer relate to them as well as I used to. Others have blossomed because they represent people who posses beliefs and attitudes that I do relate to. I suppose the things that have really changed over the years are actually “core values”. Those are the things that anchor our beliefs and declarations to our actions, and ultimately, to our outcomes.
If none of this makes sense……..Well, sorry, I can’t relate!